08 June 2008
Dry no more
And this one's for a lady named Joan, ray of sunshine by day, hitman by night.
If there's one thing sadder than loneliness, it's loneliness because you're dateless. Yes, if it takes you all day figuring out when you last went out on one, chances are you're romantic life is lagging and you're days away from—yeah—a celibate introvert-hermit's life. Extreme, but fairly probable. But then you wonder, after such a dating dry spell, how in creation can you get back in the game?
Conviction is the best, so telling yourself that you want back in and believing that you want back in can get you on your feet. Now think back a little: Why did I go “on-leave” from dating in the first place? Was it exhausting? Was it too much of a hassle? Did I get fed up with all the odd dates? At the same time, ask: What do I want this time? Am I looking for a long-term partner, or a simple... snack buddy? Do I need to re-tune my attitude towards dating and stop demanding for perfection? Speaking of which, the “perfect date” is a myth. So if you're going to be as picky and judgmental as you previously were, then you might as well get yourself a Stepford date.
Meanwhile, if you are looking for a long-term partner, it is best to live by the saying, “Patience is a virtue.” Avoid rushing things if only to find the “perfect guy or the girl” you'll exchange vows with. On the contrary, don't wait too long, either. As they say, time lengthens the minutes when you wait. When you wait, you get bored. When you get bored, it's back to Tables For One. Be clear on what you're looking for in a date, but keep an open mind. Like in a bazaar, great things sometimes come in hidden, unexpected places. Be willing to take risks.
Talking about time, it's also good if you set time for dating. You go to work, you shop for clothes, you pay bills, you argue with your credit card collector and you find time to go on a date. Exert effort. Ask your friends if they know someone whom you can go out with. Ask about nice date spots. Hear about their recent positive experiences in dating and let it encourage you more. Yet don't overdo it—you don't want to stress yourself out, especially because you've been away from the dating scene and the industry may have new regulations. Do not oblige yourself. Take it easy. Enjoy meeting new people. Enjoy learning more about old acquaintances. Enjoy the quest! Prepare for the icebergs that still lie ahead, but more importantly, anticipate better, richer experiences.
If there's one thing sadder than loneliness, it's loneliness because you're dateless. Yes, if it takes you all day figuring out when you last went out on one, chances are you're romantic life is lagging and you're days away from—yeah—a celibate introvert-hermit's life. Extreme, but fairly probable. But then you wonder, after such a dating dry spell, how in creation can you get back in the game?
Conviction is the best, so telling yourself that you want back in and believing that you want back in can get you on your feet. Now think back a little: Why did I go “on-leave” from dating in the first place? Was it exhausting? Was it too much of a hassle? Did I get fed up with all the odd dates? At the same time, ask: What do I want this time? Am I looking for a long-term partner, or a simple... snack buddy? Do I need to re-tune my attitude towards dating and stop demanding for perfection? Speaking of which, the “perfect date” is a myth. So if you're going to be as picky and judgmental as you previously were, then you might as well get yourself a Stepford date.
Meanwhile, if you are looking for a long-term partner, it is best to live by the saying, “Patience is a virtue.” Avoid rushing things if only to find the “perfect guy or the girl” you'll exchange vows with. On the contrary, don't wait too long, either. As they say, time lengthens the minutes when you wait. When you wait, you get bored. When you get bored, it's back to Tables For One. Be clear on what you're looking for in a date, but keep an open mind. Like in a bazaar, great things sometimes come in hidden, unexpected places. Be willing to take risks.
Talking about time, it's also good if you set time for dating. You go to work, you shop for clothes, you pay bills, you argue with your credit card collector and you find time to go on a date. Exert effort. Ask your friends if they know someone whom you can go out with. Ask about nice date spots. Hear about their recent positive experiences in dating and let it encourage you more. Yet don't overdo it—you don't want to stress yourself out, especially because you've been away from the dating scene and the industry may have new regulations. Do not oblige yourself. Take it easy. Enjoy meeting new people. Enjoy learning more about old acquaintances. Enjoy the quest! Prepare for the icebergs that still lie ahead, but more importantly, anticipate better, richer experiences.
What's the point of putting yourself back in the meat market? Procreation? The planet is over populated enough. Companionship? Buy a dog. Sure they can't be used for sexual gratification but they'll definitely keep you busy otherwise (and you still get to make new friends).
Interesting take on getting back into dating, but I guess I just don't see the point.